Have you been in an abusive relationship, or are you still in one?
When it comes to abuse in romantic relationships, it is not always easy to tell whether the behaviour of one partner is emotionally detrimental to the other. In addition, violence is not always physical and noisy. Often it takes the form of malicious mind games and intense manipulations. And this manipulation is perhaps the most dangerous type of abuse because it affects the victim in the long term and essentially affects his quality of life.
Unfortunately, many people fail to notice their partners’ abusive behavior.
They are somehow blind to the emotional hell in which they lived. It is therefore much more difficult for them to free themselves from the horrific impact that their manipulative partners have on them.
However, there is still hope for those who still cannot realize that they are being turned into someone’s victims. No one in this world deserves to be the puppet of someone he can play with whenever he wants. And if you doubt that your partner can abuse you mentally, you need to stay awake and always be vigilant around him. But first you need to get to know the signs of abuse in a relationship.
Here are a few of the most clear-cut signs your partner is silently manipulating you.
1. They are constantly making you feel guilty.
Skilled manipulators know exactly what to say to make their partner feel guilty, even if he is wrong. They have the vicious power to convince others that they are the victims and to blame the people around them for their own mistakes. Does your partner hold you responsible for all the problems you have in your relationship? Does he make you feel guilty by making you think you’re the only one responsible for your problems? If your answer is yes, it may intentionally manipulate you so that you can easily control your emotions.
2. They are being rude to you, but never loud.
By raising your voice, you often show that you are angry and upset by something. It’s almost natural when you’re fighting for something, especially when you’re absolutely convinced you’re right, but the other person is undermining you. It’s not something you can be proud of, but it’s just the way our brain works sometimes. However, such rudeness can easily be concealed by a smooth tone and a hushed volume. Even if your partner doesn’t raise his or her voice, be careful about the content of his words. He can insult you without you noticing. The way your partner talks to you says a lot about how he feels about you and your relationship.
3. They are usually undermining your opinion.
If your partner is mentally abusive to you, he or she will always find a way to make you feel that your beliefs and views are irrational. Every time you try to talk to him about a problem in your relationship, he tries vigorously to convince you, you are just too anxious and there is no need to worry. Does that sound familiar to you?
4. They constantly lower your self-esteem.
Are your partner’s jokes sometimes a little too harsh? Do they often make you feel guilty when they are “just jokes”? If your partner’s humor is mostly sarcastic and based on jokes about your personal flaws and imperfections, perhaps it’s not just a joke. In fact, through his jokes, he can express his true opinion about you.
5. They never really listen.
Your partner often loses track when you try to explain something to him. Whenever there is something that disturbs you and you want to share it with him, he does not pay attention to your words. Besides, he never remembers the things you say to him. It’s a miracle they even remember your birthday without you reminding them.
6. They become ignorant when they don’t get what they want.
Every time you refuse to play by their rules and give them what they want, they become distant and start pretending you don’t exist. Just like small children when their parents refuse to give them candy before dinner, your partner quickly makes your head when he realizes he can’t take advantage of you at the moment.
7. They make you fearful of their reactions.
Love should never make you fear your partner. You must feel safe in his arms and free to be yourself around them. You should never be afraid of how your actions will trigger his reactions. And you should always be able to count on your partner and connect with him at every level possible. But if your partner constantly makes you feel anxious and afraid, your relationship is far from lasting and healthy. Therefore, if you think it is impossible to repair it, you need to find a way to get out of this violent relationship safely and take your time to heal it.
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